as i said i had just upgraded to ApexDC++ 1.3.2 and that was when my problems started,ive downgraded to ApexDC++ 1.3.1 and all has been sorted,as for my nick it was registered and had password,now ive downgraded everything is fine,
it only happens in ApexDC++ (ive tried the rest ,strong,vanilla and AirDC++) but Apex is topdog :thumbsup:.
thanx anyways.