pattywac

hello..... im using the firewall with upnp option. ive checked on my router and it shows the ports being forwarded when apex is running and when i check the connection it says the ports are open. outgoing connection is marked as direct connection the guy on the other end has no problem connecting to me and downloading but when i try to get a file list it just says connecting and then eventually Connection timed out. Ive left it on trying to connect and after a long time (10+ hrs) it will finally get the file list and then i can download as much as i want.... he also set his router up to forward the ports he specified any ideas on why it takes so long to connect?

1. my ip is correct..... ive tried local and wan 2. ive tried both manual port forwarding and upnp on my router with separate ports and the same ports for UDP, TCP, TLS (for upnp i double checked the router and it lists the ports as forwarded in the upnp section) 3. disabled windows firewall and mcafee enterprise and the problem remains...... apex is in the windows firewall list anyway tho any other ideas? passive mode does work..... what am i losing out on by using it?

tried both local network ip and wan ip with the same results...... for manual port forwarding i tried using the same port for both and separate ports upnp has separate ports currently assigned (TCP 3953, UDP 5559)

ya sorry i forgot to add that........ i switched to upnp after the normal port forwarding....... same problem either way