thanks for the feedback people..
After alot of messing i found it to be that it was something to do with a corrupt file or something wrong with favourites.xml I copied the dir before uninstalling, reinstalled and i copied the files one by one until it wouldnt work and connect to anything.. I have saved them but i have just then gone thro them and manually inputted them again..
Long winded but if it gets me up and running, im good.
No i dont use ZA that was my ultimate choioce but Winxp wouldnt allow me to install it. *kept crashing* so i left it... i use Kerio Sunbelt, which so far hasnt given me any probs, Altho other network monitoring software has in the past.. and still does from time to time lol
My bro also uses Apexdc and installed the patch and hasnt been effected with this. which is weird.
thanks for the feedback : :)